PROMOTION Expert guidance Minimising the Impact of Separation on Children fany parents choose to remain in unhappy relationships for a considerable tension the children may feel. In this example, the TV lamount of time through concern that the impact of separation may adversely affect their children. In reality, the emotional impact on father. children of separated parents can be moderated scenario would immediately minimise any negative mother has indicated, without saying anything, that the children are welcome to spend time with their in a namber of ways. Firstly, and most obviously, children will be stressed and distressed by overt hostility by one parent toward another, and this must be avoided at all costs. However acrimonious the breakup may be, parents have a responsibility to keep Rather than viewing it as disloyalty for them wanting to spend time with him, the mother has expressed emotional permission for them to be happy during their time with him, This will undoubtedly leave them feeling happy to recount positive experiences on recollection. It can be hard, but your children will understand how difficult this was for you Anita Scorah Partner in the Family Law team at SAS Daniels LLP any negative feelings about each other from the children for their benefit and wellbeing. and be grateful to you for making the situation easier for them in years to come. Getting Started on Arrangements for Children A parenting plan can provide a template for discussion What Is 'Emotional Permission'? Matrimonial solicitors often cite the concept of 'emotional permission, which refers to the subliminal messages we're giving to our children. By way of example, a mother may deliver her children to their father in silence, commenting "make sure he knows you need to be ready at Spm" whilst she waits in the car, driving and agreement, which can be addressed before any separation takes place as a starting point for discussions and arrangements. This can be found on the Government's Cafkass website. If disagreements remain, a mediator or family counsellor can assist in arriving at a compromise off once the children reach the door. Whilst situation. Should there still be difficulties, family solicitors can step in to advise, guide and liaise with the other parent or their representatives. Finally, the court system exists to impose arrangements where compromise cannot be reached. Whilst best avolded, sometimes there is no other way. nothing negative has been overtly expressed, the children can sense that tension is present. On the contrary, if the mother had simply walked to the door and exchanged greetings or pleasantries with the father when the children arrived, this If you would ike further guidance on children arrangements, divorce, or other family matters, please contact Anita Scorah, on 01625 442123 or email anita.scorah@sasdaniels.co.uk daniels LLP sas Solicitors. Offices in Chestor, Congleton, Macciesfield and Stockport www.sasdaniels.co.uk PROMOTION Expert guidance Minimising the Impact of Separation on Children fany parents choose to remain in unhappy relationships for a considerable tension the children may feel. In this example, the TV lamount of time through concern that the impact of separation may adversely affect their children. In reality, the emotional impact on father. children of separated parents can be moderated scenario would immediately minimise any negative mother has indicated, without saying anything, that the children are welcome to spend time with their in a namber of ways. Firstly, and most obviously, children will be stressed and distressed by overt hostility by one parent toward another, and this must be avoided at all costs. However acrimonious the breakup may be, parents have a responsibility to keep Rather than viewing it as disloyalty for them wanting to spend time with him, the mother has expressed emotional permission for them to be happy during their time with him, This will undoubtedly leave them feeling happy to recount positive experiences on recollection. It can be hard, but your children will understand how difficult this was for you Anita Scorah Partner in the Family Law team at SAS Daniels LLP any negative feelings about each other from the children for their benefit and wellbeing. and be grateful to you for making the situation easier for them in years to come. Getting Started on Arrangements for Children A parenting plan can provide a template for discussion What Is 'Emotional Permission'? Matrimonial solicitors often cite the concept of 'emotional permission, which refers to the subliminal messages we're giving to our children. By way of example, a mother may deliver her children to their father in silence, commenting "make sure he knows you need to be ready at Spm" whilst she waits in the car, driving and agreement, which can be addressed before any separation takes place as a starting point for discussions and arrangements. This can be found on the Government's Cafkass website. If disagreements remain, a mediator or family counsellor can assist in arriving at a compromise off once the children reach the door. Whilst situation. Should there still be difficulties, family solicitors can step in to advise, guide and liaise with the other parent or their representatives. Finally, the court system exists to impose arrangements where compromise cannot be reached. Whilst best avolded, sometimes there is no other way. nothing negative has been overtly expressed, the children can sense that tension is present. On the contrary, if the mother had simply walked to the door and exchanged greetings or pleasantries with the father when the children arrived, this If you would ike further guidance on children arrangements, divorce, or other family matters, please contact Anita Scorah, on 01625 442123 or email anita.scorah@sasdaniels.co.uk daniels LLP sas Solicitors. Offices in Chestor, Congleton, Macciesfield and Stockport www.sasdaniels.co.uk